[via]Growing up, I always had a tight group of girlfriends.
I lived in a small town in New York. I attended a public school with a grade size of 85. Everyone knew everyone's skeletons, their dirty little secrets, along with which food they couldn't stomach and whose parents were swingers (my neighbor's, for one). So naturally, I had a close knit circle ever since I learned how to read. I loved them, of course. But I always felt like a bit of an outsider. I didn't drink or "hook up" with guys (not at 16, anyway). I didn't dress in the latest fashions (unless you consider Jenkos cool). I wasn't thin by any means (my baby fat stayed until I, uh, wasn't such a baby anymore...). So when my family moved to Los Angeles, I was sad. But I was also ready for a fresh start.
I was jolted awake on my first day of junior year with a whopping 500 people in my grade. I was so happy! And so overwhelmed! I was no longer a big fish in a small pond. But I couldn't have asked for a better last couple of high school years. I found my niche in the theater, and formed a giant group of friends with similar morals and interests. And I was convinced I'd be friends with them forever.
I kept in touch with a few of my girlfriends from New York, three to be exact. And while I missed them, I always felt that I had had a better experience at my California high school.
But through those last two years, something was missing that I've only now come to realize, and that's a small group of girlfriends. It's a big void, and one that hasn't been filled since I moved across the country eight years ago.
One of these friends recently came to visit on her way up to San Francisco, with two of her college friends in tow. Spending time with them was like a breath of fresh air, just what I needed at that time. But throughout their entire visit, there was a constant tug at my heartstrings: the desire for multiple female companionship.
I returned on Monday from an amazing trip to Vegas (more on that later, promise). I went with five other girls, four of whom are a tight group. And guess what? The tug returned.
I'm not sure why this feeling has hit now, but it's really been on my mind. I had those kinds of friends years ago, but that was before I knew what true friendship was. Those years between 16 and 24? Well, a lot goes down during that window of time, for anyone.
If you need me, I'll be hanging out with Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte (season 4).
Do you have a close circle of friends?
12 comments:
I can totally relate! I just moved to an Air Force Base 2,000 miles from my hometown and I am definitly putting myself out there to meet people and make close friends!
I can relate. I had a tight group of girlfriend in high school and college, but once your an adult, it's hard to find that if you move away from all those aforementioned people. Let me know if you want me to move to NC and marry and an army guy so we can start a group :).
In highschool I had one best friend. By college, I had several. I was in a sorority so that really helped. I LOVED my sisters and we are still super close and see each other all the time. Over the years, my friendships have kind of ebbed and flowed, and now at 30, I have a very solid group of women that I'm extremely close with. It took the last two years of my 20s to get there though. A lot of growing up occurred...some of us grew together and some of us grew apart. But that's life!
I wish we lived closer! We'd be besties for sure.
Bah! I don't have any either. My best girlfriends are all bloggers. Lets be besties.
I agree with you. In high school I had this tight group of friends then lost that when I went to college and we slowly are fading away. But I think that is when your true frieds come out. Who really goes out of their way to talk and see you. That is true friendship.
Oh MAN do I feel this right now. I'm realizing now that my "close" group of girlfriends is more a burden than anything else and I'd honestly rather hang out with one or two of them than the whole group anymore, so I guess it's good that I'm moving.
I spend more time alone with my boyfriend now because of this discontentedness and it's made me start to miss that female companionship.
i totally feel ya on this lady. i had a close group of friends in hs, and we're all still friends today but we just never hang out any more and it makes me sad.
and there's the college group of friends but holy hell we're spread out throughout the country and only all get together once a year and that once a year is always the best time ever.
basically yes i miss the lady friends too but it's always nice to make new ones that love dawson's creek as much as i do :)
let me just say i love sex & the city season 4! :)
i totally totally hear you on this. i actually used to have a huge clique, that formed after my 21st birthday. the 7 of us girls were basically inseparable and hung out every weekend. but slowly over time - shit happened. a little bit of drama, a little bit of gossip, and now it's down to 4 of us - but 2 now live on the opposite coast! i almost feel like it's tougher at our age to form groups of gfs. we're out of college, we're not really put in situations where we'd instantly mesh with a large group.
I can relate too as I have moved across the country from what I always knew. BUT, I happened to find an even tighter group of friends and realized the "friends" I thought were friends actually weren't. I hope you find your other half soon!
Used to. Both in junior high and high school. I've been missing it as well :) It's harder to look for great girl friends now, don't you think?
I am your newest follower! I can totally relate to this! It is hard to feel like your friends are all over the place and none of those places are right there in the same zip code!
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We touched on this a bit during one of our convos, but I know the feeling and yearning! I just started season 3 at my apt yesterday...it made me think of you! I'm sure as time goes on you are going to find a fab group of lady friends, and you know you've got me too. xoxo. I'm sad knowing that I'm moving to UT and a lot of my girls are here...but I shall return, whahaha! ;)
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