Please. Someone. Anyone. Fill me in. They make my Mondays a bit more tolerable. Not to mention they give me a post for the day.
So I'm not going to talk about The Bachelorette today because a) everyone else already has and b) I haven't seen it yet.
I know. What?!
But enough of that.
Running the risk of sounding incredibly desperate, I'm about to tell you a story. I'll make it a short story, because I adore you all that much.
No, seriously.
Back in high school (not way back, only about 5 or so years ago), I had a boyfriend. We'll call him Dean because I kind of like that name and it starts with the same letter as his real name.
Am I clever or what?
Anyway.
Dean was my first real relationship, and I his. We dated on and off for 2 years and then broke it off because he started dating someone else (he didn't cheat, we were in that 'what are they?' phase and one of us had to move on sooner or later). This someone else - we'll call her Gillian because I'm so not thinking about The Bachelorette or anything - forbid Dean to ever talk to me. And he obliged. And poof! Just like that, we were no longer the friends we promised each other we'd be.
Later on, Gillian and Dean broke up (why, I still don't know), and I get an apologetic letter from Dean telling me he was an idiot and threw away one of the best friendships he'd ever had and could we be friends again. We met for coffee, things were fine and that was that. He's in college and does his college thing. We communicate every now and then but he's super busy, yadda yadda yadda. He meets a girl and they get together. This one seems a bit more suitable for him, so happy day. Mind you, by this point we're both completely over each other.
But I want to be friends, because that's just how I roll (if I even roll at all). So I call him, no response. I text, no response. Finally, we connect and he says that he too wants to be friends and all that jazz. Great! Good. When are you home Dean? Soon, let's get together. Okay!
No call, no nothing.
He was busy. Fine.
Finally, he's home for summer. We live rather close to one another, let's get together. Okay, he says. I call, I text. Busy, busy, busy.
But wait! I do have some pride and dignity.
So I tell Dean that he can contact me if/when he wants to hang out. He says I'm looking too much into this and taking it personally and that he's just busy.
Oh, really? It's not like I work full time (not to mention have another 2 jobs) and still find the time to make an effort.
And that was that. No (serious) hard feelings, but still no hang out-age.
A friend of mine theorized that it's because he's got a serious girlfriend.
I theorize that he's just kind of an ass.
Okay. There's my short story for ya.
Lay it on me.
14 comments:
Hmm. Maybe he is the type of guys that can't be friends with an ex. Or...maybe he has feelings for you still and if he sees you then he won't be able to move on again. Just a theory. I think it is incredibly kind of you to try to be his friend. I have tried the same with my ex and I have been the one to try to cut off communication because it is hard for me not to have feelings for him. And...I have a BF as you know and want to give him the best chance ever! ;) So, I think maybe a) he has a serious girlfriend like your friend said
b) can't be a friend with an ex
c) may still have feelings too and is afraid...
I know it still sucks that he didn't respond. Sorry about that. He doesn't deserve to be your friend since you are trying to be so kind! Happy Tuesday love!
He's obviously not cool enough to hang out with you anyway.
theme of this story: guys don't know what the hell they want. girls, well girls are better.
:)
Ugh, guys like him annoy me to no end! You don't need to worry about having him as a friend in your life, because a true friend would never ever be too busy to contact you or make good on promises! I like your theory that he's just an ass!
Have you read "He's Just Not That Into You?" I think this applies to friends as well as boyfriends. He doesn't deserve your precious time, regardless of his or your motives. You can do better. :) Too bad you don't live here, I'd hook you up with the dude I just tried to hook my other friend up with. He's so nice and deserves a great girl.
This is obviously "NOT friend makin' monday"! He's lame...he needs to get over himself.
I vote for an ass whose not worth your time anyway!
Not finding the time or too busy for someone is such a lame excuse. Kind of like people saying they can't do something in their off time (gym, sports, hobbies), because they are too busy. If you love and care about something (person, gym, animal) you will find the time for it or them.
Dean is young and kind of sucks. No offense Dean, but you are. He doesn't know what he wants, and I kinda agree with Ocean Dreams about him not being able to resist your fabulousness if he were to hang out. Or he just sucks. Or maybe he does have a GF in which case maybe it's for the best...that whole thing gets so tricky. Breaking up sucks because you lose the friendship, generally...and for me thats the worst part.
I read this earlier and wanted to come back and leave a concise comment...umm yeah. Totally did that. ha.
I MISS YOU CUPPYCAKE. Life has calmed! Let's rendezvous.
Hmyeah, I say ass.
Nice blog btw ^^
it's probably that he has a serious girlfriend and he's so far up her ass that he doesn't really worry or care about friendships with other people because "omg they're in looooooooove and have each other."
i can't lie, i've been that way before, and just about ALL of my guy friends are that way when they're in relationships. then when the relationship is over they become cool again and actually try to make time for you.
plus, girls rule and boys drool. duh!
Not a huge fan of the guy... only because I have dated a guy just like that a couple years ago. I can't stand it when people are like that... not that you wanted him back, but just because he was so misleading about a friendship. It makes me wonder if he is still talking to "gillian" and she feels wierd about you and him talking? I dont know... very interesting!
Followed your link the the Reminders flickr stream. So cute! Thanks for sharing, I want to copy in my apt!
Isn't it all so exhausting? That story reminds me of a lot of my past until rather recently... If it's meant to be, I think you guys will find a way of naturally becoming friends again. At least, that's what I think... :)
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